The Expert- Imposter Syndrome and 5 Tips to Change it

As we close out this blog series. Our final imposter syndrome is the expert.

The expert has taught themselves that competence means knowing absolutely everything. The expert focus is really on how much and what a person can do.

The expert self-talk looks like the following, “ if I am or they are as talented as we claim to be, then we must know everything before the task has even started”.

Sounds familiar, transparency moment, I have been wanting to start a YouTube channel for years!!!!! But I am not super techy…..nor do am I interested in learning which leads to my next point.

This imposter syndrome leads to a lot of procrastination because that person is constantly researching information which in return gets in the way of completing the task. I. E me lol with my YouTube channel….it is finally coming soon though.

So, what are some ways you can stop these blockages and move forward?

I think with all of the imposter syndrome the most important one is admittance but especially for the expert. Openly admit that you don’t have an answer to the situation or know right off the top of your head, however you are a great researcher and will have an answer soon.

Give yourself a realistic timeline, to research and execute a plan. There is nothing wrong at all with researching however you don’t want being an expert to hinder you from completion. When you do complete a project celebrate that small or big win. It matters

Openly give yourself grace. You have the right to not know the answer to everything and other people have that right as well. Extend grace not only to yourself but to the others in your circle. This concept will have you start to shed the misconception “that we must know it all”. That honestly is not realistic at all.

Change your self-talk script from……” I have no idea what I am doing” or “everyone is going to be disappointed in me if I don’t deliver” to I have the right to feel uncertain about this project, new business venture, even cooking a new meal. It is absolutely normal to feel off based regarding this new situation.

Visualization is key to all of the imposter syndromes. Visualize yourself killing that new business venture, that date night or party you planned for a special loved one, or that audition. See yourself winning over and over again. This is a mindset shift that sounds simple but it will give you the confidence boost you need and allow you to propel forward in all areas of your life.

Remember to change your behavior first and watch your confidence build. I pray this blog is helpful and that you all do a self-inventory of where imposter syndrome has creeped in your life. Do the work to remove and go forth and be great!

As always readers,

Happy Dating,


Your Sista on the Sofa,