How to Manage Your Spouses Bad Moods

If I am being all the way honest, my body has been going through some thangs (yes thangs yall). 

I have been feeling extremely fatigued, and my hormones are all over the place. I started stress eating and gained 14lbs, too close to 20 lbs if you ask me. 

So today’s blog is personal. I am in a new season in my life trying to run a business, be a good high school counselor still, be a good lover, friend, mom, you know all of the things and I honestly had let my emotions take over my body. 

So today’s blog is all about managing your moods because they impact relationships  and usually in a negative way. 

Let’s talk about mindset first. Negative attitudes and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can create chronic stress, which upsets the body’s hormone balance, depletes the brain chemicals required for happiness, and damages the immune system. All of the things that I have been struggling and dealing with here lately. 

Next communication styles. When in a bad mood, you desire a higher level of politeness, because you are more sensitive to outside requests. For my women to think about how we are on our cycles, we are more irritable and snappy in our communication. The same thing happens when our moods are off. So It is important that we are managing our moods. 

When it comes to sexual intimacy it is also essential to understand the impact your bad moods have on the desire to be intimate with your spouse. Negative mood states, such as depression and anxiety, are typically associated with decreased sexual interest and arousal. However, there is also some evidence that depressed or anxious mood may increase sexual interest or arousal in some individuals. Either one may cause a conflict in your relationships so it’s important to manage your moods. 

Ways to manage your moods 

Journal write ( this helps you acknowledge your mood) video journal if writing isn;t your thing 

Change your diet

Spend time in nature( practice grounding exercises ) 

Try watching something funny, or laughing yoga

Meditate and pray ( guided christian meditation is my personal favorite.) 

Listen to nature sounds and light candles 

Take a relaxing bath and listen to affirmations while in the tub. 

Go serve others 


How to help your spouse 

Don’t take it personal

Don’t match their energy 

Ask them what do they need from you in this moment that will help 

Do something nice for them that will bring hem joy and alleviate their stress 

Don’t add to their stress 

If you or your spouse are currently struggling with managing your moods and trying to overcome miscommunication, intimacy and mindset issues please feel free to book an appointment with me. As your relationship coach my mission is to divorce proof your marriage and help you keep or attract your forever plus one. If this is what you want and need don’t hesitate to book. I look forward to serving you.

As Always Readers,

Happy Dating,


Your Sista on the Sofa,