Worklife-Family Spillover

For the month of January I will be doing a series on my personal instagram page yoursistaonthesofa. Make sure you follow that account because you don’t want to miss any of the lives and most importantly my featured guest. They are all successful women. 

We will be discussing work-place spill over. I know at the top of the year, we all have set our goals and intentions for the year. 

I wonder how many people set goals for their marriage or family? 

We are so driven culturally to do more and better ourselves, but oftentimes we forget about that component. 

Today’s blog is an educational one. I want to provide a little more background of why this topic is huge but rarely mentioned. 

First up Work-family conflict happens when role pressures at work prevent you  functioning effectively at home. For example, when working late several nights in a row to complete an important but time consuming project, you might fail to do your fair share of the housework or even worse you choose to neglect your spouse’s bids for intimacy across levels. This type of conflict is more likely to happen to people who have a negative relationship with money. So they are highly ambitious, competitive, with the mindset they have to make it while forgetting they have a family at home. Other things that impact conflict at home are staying positive even when dealing with rude coworkers or customers,  an undesirable work time schedule, or feeling overloaded at work. Work-family conflict can cause hostile interactions between partners as well as reduced marital and life satisfaction.

Spillover happens when you bring your work stress home with you and end up working at home, or worrying and constantly thinking about work at home. Spillover is an individual experience. The basic idea is that we don’t always leave work at work and instead end up focusing on work at the expense of focusing on our social or family lives when away from work.

Crossover happens when the work stress you brought home starts to affect your partner. The stress from your job is effectively crossing over to a completely separate person. This can happen through the transfer of negative emotions or even burnout (complete exhaustion due to overwork and job stress). Researchers have found that exposure to a burned-out partner increases one’s own level of burnout. This is an interactive process between two people.

My goal is to always provide tips on how to manage any conflict. 

So get better at saying “no”. Prioritize yourself and your family, by understanding your limits and knowing that the job will be there. 

Manage your time, block out times where you are going to work and stick to that time only, have your family hold you accountable. Also be mindful of how much down time you take at your job, if you notice you are not managing your time the best, set timers to keep you on track with completing tasks. 

Learn to detach from work, this could be working out when you get home, taking a shower and changing into comfortable clothes, something to let your brain know that you are at home and the focus needs to shift. 

Finally know when you need to seek help. I am all about divorce proofing marriages and helping people attract or keep their forever plus ones. 

If you are ready to become a better version of yourself, communicate effectively with your spouse and increase intimacy across all areas in your marriage and relationships this program is for you.  

You found the right relationship coach, book a chemistry call and let’s see how I can serve you. 

As always, 

Happy Dating, 


Your Sista on the Sofa,