Raise your hand if you are a fan of the show, “ Married At First Sight”!
If you aren’t let me get you caught up on a topic, I was recently inspired by the show to unpack.
One couple in particular has called an uproar on social media. Katina and O, because of what some believe are misogynist views on what a “wife”should be like.
I’m not here to argue either side but to provide clarity on what seems to be common amongst most couples “expectations”.
Expectations in a relationship are subjective, biased and can differ depending on each person. Some may expect their spouse to take out the garbage and they, in turn, may expect you to have breakfast on the table every morning. But if both people assume the other person knows this automatically without ever having a conversation about it, it can lead to tension in the relationship. Which is exactly what we started to witness on the show.
So how do you communicate your expectations effectively?
First identify the unspoken expectation.
Ask yourself how is it impacting your relationship and the need that is not being met ?
Then communicate the need…..Lately I have been feeling unsatisfied in the area of emotional intimacy, I would like to feel comfortable sharing my feelings with you. Is it ok if we go on “release walks” to hold us both accountable in this area?
Allow some time for your partner to receive the expectation. “ I’ll give you some time to reflect on this”. If a week goes by simply bring it back up “ hey I wanted to see if you gave some thought to what we mentioned earlier in the week about our release walks”.
Remember, you can’t win the game if you don’t know the rules, so give your spouse the opportunity to meet your expectations.
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Your Sista on the Sofa,